Dispute Settling in a relationship

Sometimes there are unavoidable issues to trash out with your spouse, sometimes argument comes up, you quarrel over an issue and so on, all these does not have to separate you two but to resolve your differences amicably..
There are ways to go about settling dispute, there are ways to avoid arguments which afterwards will
make your relationship strong. Let's consider some
of these ways not forgetting that prayer and right connection with God is also an important
ingredient..
1. Give yourself a time out.
Instead of pouring out anger on each other, I advise you both to take a time alone to retire to yourself to have a rethink and figure out what went wrong.
When you also notice in the heat of the argument that it is going nowhere, it is time to keep quiet and take a time out..
2. Discuss things out..
Like I wrote in the first paragraph, argument/quarrel
are irresistible at times. An annoying habit of your partner can lead to a never-ending argument, even arguments over money matters looks hard to address but discussion is sincerely the key..
It is advisable that one partner should keep mute if other partner is going mad. Try to communicate the
problem politely, if something is really troubling you then instead of having a noisy argument you can say, 'see let us sort out things calmly, let's talk.'.
3. Choose your words carefully.
I said this last week, you have to choose your words carefully because the effect(s) will linger on.
Indulging in the use of unholy words or names calling is like adding fuel to the fire. You might say
something now for which you will feel sorry later, you may even hurt your partner's feelings without intention. So, think twice before you say something you did not want to..
4. Is it worth the argument/quarrel?.
I told someone this some days ago, does the issue
really worth the quarrel? Can you pray in such situation, so does it worth sacrificing your relationship with God! Mark the triggers that lead to
fights; dishonesty, mistrust, misunderstanding and lying to your partner are some of the common factors that could make a relationship suffer.
Express your feelings to your partner, if you are not happy with certain behavior of your partner, bring it
to his or her notice, don't bottle it up and reacting with it.
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5. Control your emotions.
Keep your emotions under control, staying calm may surely help you think better. You have every right to show anger or disappointment but over-reacting is not a solution. Do not allow your temper
to take charge of your mind, please avoid raising your voice, rule your emotion!.
6. Forgive and forget.
Before this, always learn to say sorry and when this is said, let it end and proceed to forgive and forget it. Forgiveness is the key to get over your fights, even if you know that your partner made a mistake, forgiving will not harm your ego..
Make it comfortable for your partner to express his or her feelings, avoid fighting/quarreling or arguing in the presence of your children, friends, family members or in the public..
Next time you have an argument with your partner, be calm. Take time out. Go in separate rooms and end the fight with lots of hugs and kisses (in marriage). If your loved one is angry with you, make a move and apologize with a smile. No one claims right in a relationship, you owe each other
responsibilities.
Everything will be all right, let love rule anger!